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California Men's Centers San Diego Activities
October 9, 2006: prison tolling project update, 11th annual FVSAI
conference exhibit, our open house, new website, presentations
given, member activities, update on Safe Place Faith
Communities program (going national!) and more.
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which man structurally does not have,
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have it. He's just incapable of it."

Former Congresswoman Barbara
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This is the only place on the Net where one can read on-line
Transitions - Journal of Men's Perspectives, a quarterly
publication by the National Coalition of Free Men. The most
current issue will be posted when the next edition is published;
so, this archive is one quarter behind the most recent edition.

Transitions is packed with original articles, lively comments, book
reviews, a media watch, news from the various chapters, and
letters to the Editor.

California Men's Center San Diego activity summaries are posted
here as completed beginning with the October 2006 summary.
Ray Blumhorst Dec.
2006
December 19, 2006

I want to thank the San Diego Men's Center
for all the outstanding work it does. I have
seen the Center grow from a mere idea
with a simple philosophy to a full-blown
center that is helping scores of men,
women, children, and families in need. The
Center is truly historical and badly needed.
I am proud to work with the Center and will
continue to support it in any way I can.

Marc E. Angelucci, Esq.
President
Los Angeles chapter
National Coalition of Free Men
http://www.ncfmla.org
December 20, 2006: CMCSD talked Santa
into handing out gifts for families
selected by San Diego area Family
Resource Centers. In his past life Santa
was NCFMSD VP Kevin Young! Click on
Santa for photo album.
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http://www.ncfmla.org/media_coverage.html

8/30/07: Mississauga News (Canada) prints NCFM-LA
reply to biased domestic violence article.

8/27/07: Boston Herald prints NCFM-LA reply to
biased domestic violence article.

8/24/07: L.A. Times assistant editor Matt Welch
mentions NCFM-LA in the newspaper's blog following
up on his op ed on government abuse of passport
restrictions against non-custodial dads.

8/23/07: L.A. Daily Journal prints letter by
attorney Al Rava defending NCFM-LA and the victory
in Angelucci v. Century Supper Club.

8/14/07: Bangkok Post prints NCFM-LA reply to
biased domestic violence article.

8/12/07: Sierra Sun prints NCFM-LA commentary
responding to biased domestic violence article.
8/12/07: Chapel Hill News prints NCFM-LA reply to
biased domestic violence article.

8/9/07: Eureka Reporter prints NCFM-LA submission
regarding male victims of domestic violence.

8/9/07: Los Angeles Daily Journal prints op ed by
attorneys from the law firm of Thelen Reid Brown
Raysman & Steiner re NCFM-LA's victory in
Angelucci v. Century Supper Club.

8/2/07: New Zealand Times prints NCFM-LA reply to
biased domestic violence article.6/4/07 Mercury -
Register covers Court case of Angelucci v. Century
Supper Club. http://www.orovillemr.
com/news/bayarea/ci_6030830

6/4/07: Torrance Daily Breeze quotes NCFM-LA in
story about Bert Riddick's paternity fraud case.  
http://www.dailybreeze.com/news/articles/7818642.
html?showAll=y&c=y

6/3/07: Long Beach Press-Telegram quotes NCFM-LA
in story about Bert Riddick’s paternity fraud
case, with photo of Riddick. http://www.
presstelegram.com/news/ci_6055114

6/1/07: San Francisco Chronicle covers NCFM-LA's
victory in California Supreme Court case of
Angelucci v. Century Supper Club.
http//wwwsfgatecom/cgibin/articlecgif=/c/a/2007/06/
01/BAGIPQ5QUQ1.DTL

6/1/07: Metro-News Enterprise covers NCFM-LA's
victory in California Supreme Court case of
Angelucci v. Century Supper Club. http://www.
metnews.com/articles/2007/ange060107.htm  

6/1/07: Orange County Weekly covers NCFM-LA's
victory in California Supreme Court case of
Angelucci v. Century Supper Club. http://blogs.
ocweekly.com/blotter/category/moxley/

5/31/07: KTVU News covers NCFM-LA's victory in
California Supreme Court case of Angelucci v.
Century Supper Club. http://www.ktvu.
com/news/13422908/detail.html

5/31/07: American Chronicle covers NCFM-LA's
victory in California Supreme Court case of
Angelucci v. Century Supper Club.  http://www.
americanchronicle.com/articles/viewArticle.asp?
articleID=28535

February 08, 2007: Kentucky Blue Ribbon Panel on
Adoption Recommends Changes to Child Welfare
System; Group’s ideas to be proposed in two bills.
Proposed comprehensive reforms would bolster
family rights and aide such families in keeping
their children. Concers included that one day all
children might become wards of the state...

5/4/07: Caribbean Net News prints NCFM-LA reply to
biased domestic violence story. http://www.
caribbeannetnews.com/news-1308--7-7--.html

On 5/7/07, Caribbean Net News printed a reply to
NCFM-LA by the Change Centre, an organization in
the West Indies. http://www.caribbeannetnews.
com/news-1356--7-7--.html

Then on 5/8/07, Caribbean Net News printed NCFM-
LA's reply to the Change Centre. http://www.
caribbeannetnews.com/news-1373--7-7--.html

5/10/07: Londa Gazete, a Cypriot-Turkish newspaper
in London, England, prints NCFM-LA reply to
extremely biased domestic violence article. This
letter led to heated email exchanges between the
author of the article and NCFM-LA.

5/12/07: Long Beach Press-Telegram prints NCFM-LA’
s reply to ignorant, sexist comment by Jerry
Schaefer of Long Beach that female domestic
violence is about "putting men in their place" and
is a response to men’s violence against women.   
http://www.presstelegram.com/ci_5883712?
source=most_viewed

5/24/07: Cape Cod Online prints NCFM-LA reply to
biased domestic violence article.  http://www.
capecodonline.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?
AID=/20070524/OPINION/705240363

5/25/07: Derry Journal prints NCFM-LA reply to
biased domestic violence article.  
http//wwwderryjournalcom/ViewArticleaspxSectionID=3
911&articleid=2906736

5/26/07: Inbox Robot (a news service for research
professionals) prints NCFM-LA's reply to biased
domestic violence article.

5/26/07: San Bernardino Sun prints NCFM-LA reply
to biased domestic violence article.  http://www.
sbsun.com/voiceofpeople/ci_5989393

5/29/07: UCLA Daily Bruin prints NCFM-LA reply to
feminist Sascha Cohen who presented rape in a
false, anti-male manner and ignored sociological
data on female perpetration of rape.  http://www.
dailybruin.com/news/2007/may/29/letters_editor/

5/29/07: Connecticut Post prints NCFM-LA letter
pointing out that women are not all that far
behind men in committing animal abuse and that
women initiate domestic violence as often as men.  
http://www.connpost.com/letters/ci_6014265
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Alberta's Children Services
September 7-9, 2007

The National Coalition of Free Men (NCFM) every
other year "Face-to-Face" meeting will be held at
the California Men's Center in San Diego. All NCFM
members are invited.

NCFM was established in 1976. At the above Board
meeting it was decided that the California Men's
Center San Diego will become, that is, now is, the
national office of NCFM!
IN THE NEWS          
Cann tragedy spurs visit from parents' rights group
Norton Mirror - Milford,MA,USA September 13, 2007
The bus, driven by Larry Kerkman, president of
Children's Rights Initiative for Sharing Parents
Equally (CRISPE), is on a national tour that began in
San Diego...

CRISPE Bus Stops in Berkley
WVNS-TV, WV - Aug 15, 2007
CRISPE or Children's Rights Initiative for Sharing
Parents Equally and Men and Women Against
Discrimination set up shop at the corner of North
Fayette and...

CRISPE Bus in Town
WTAP-TV, WV - Aug 14, 2007
The Children's' Rights Initiative for Sharing Parents
Equally bus, or CRISPE for short, is traveling to
Washington DC for a National Family Rights rally ...

Raising Awareness For Equal Parenting
WVVA TV, IL - Aug 15, 2007
The group, Men And Women Against Discrimination,
welcomed the CRISPE Bus into Beckley Wednesday
afternoon. The CRISPE Bus is on a national tour to
raise...

Rallying for Family Values
Wheeling News Register, WV - Aug 15, 2007
The goal of CRISPE is to change family law to
coincide with the various long-term studies that were
published in the late 1990s...

Bulletin board
Charleston Gazette,  USA - Aug 12, 2007
For information, call 295-0053 or visit
www.mawadwv.org, www.crispe.org or
www.dcrally2007.com. Retired United Steelworker's
SOAR, Local 5668 will meet at 10...

Robert Pedersen's Eyewitness Account of this
Weekend's Rally in...
Men's News Daily, CA - Aug 19, 2007
... Children's Rights Council, Dads and Moms of
Michigan, Fathers4Justice, A Child's Right, Family
Rights Coalition, CRISPE and so many more...
http://edition.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0
611/20/lkl.01.html

Excerpts from November 20, 2006
Larry
King interview with Alec Baldwin on
CNN.


Click on the last sentence for full
transcript:

BALDWIN: I wanted to die, yeah. I went
to bed for
-- I mean, I'm writing this book because
I went to
bed for about a year, maybe less,
maybe more,
probably a year. When I was about a
year-and-a-half
into the proceedings and I saw the turn
they were
taking and I saw that no matter what I
did, and
when I saw that no matter what
goodwill I showed,
when I saw that no matter how much
conciliation I
brought to the table and how much I
had hoped for
on the other side, when I saw that on
the other side
the attorneys were calling all the shots
and they were
just going to run this thing right into the
ground.
They didn't care. Mediating and
coming to any
kinds of agreements that was just not
on their radar
at all.

But when I thought that everything was
really --
when I thought that -- I thought I was a
good person
and when I thought that everything I
could bring to
bear on the event wasn't going to
make any
difference, I thought, I don't want to live
anymore,
because it was all about -- and this is
last thing I'll
say about this, it was all about when
you have a
child involved, I mean, as a man, most
men that I
know that are good men, that are
decent men, you're
going to chew your way through a
concrete wall to
access your child. You want to be with
a child.

BALDWIN: Well no, I mean, everything
I had to
do -- get, I had to fight for. No one ever
turned to
me and said "let's work this out." The
answer to
every request was, "No. No. No. No.
No." So, it
was just a fight for everything. That
was exhausting.

BALDWIN: I think it was probably
tough. I think
it was tough to have two well-known
parents and
you go to school and maybe
somebody's elbowing
somebody in their ribs and saying, you
know,
"There's so and so whose parents are
doing this" or
she sees it on TV or she reads about
it. I'm deeply,
deeply saddened that she had to go
through it. But
again, I had to ask myself, what's the
alternative?
You know, the fight became the fight
and it became
a public fight because I wouldn't give
up and I'm
glad I didn't give up.

BALDWIN: Well, I think I'm like a lot of
men I
know. I'm kind of a slave to my
daughter whenever
my daughter's around.

KING: Tell me about it.

BALDWIN: When my daughter's
around I'm just...

KING:. She owns you?

BALDWIN: Yes. I mean, I just do
whatever she
tells me to do. The deal I have with
her, we'll go to
the store -- I mean, I joke with her, I
say we'll go to
the store. She'll want to go buy things.
And she's
not greedy. She's not gluttonous in
any way, she's a
very reasonable kid, she's a great
person. But we'll
go to the story and I'll say to her, you
can have
whatever you can carry out of here. If
you can carry it
out of here, you can have it. The
clothes, all the
clothes you can carry out.

KING: Do you think that's a by-product
of being a
divorced father, an absentee father?

BALDWIN: Potentially yes. But I've tried
to steer
away from that where the things we do
are not all --
what they call the Disney dad
syndrome, where
everything is about fun and games and
activities and
things that are, you know, not the
quotidian chores
of the day. I mean, I want to do her
homework with
her and I want to do -- I want real life
with her.

KING: Would you agree, someone said
that divorce
is worse than death because you lose
someone but
you don't have closure? It never has
closure.

BALDWIN: Oh, I think -- for everybody
that I
know that's normal and healthy, when
they get
married, they go into it hopeful. You
don't go into
it predicting it's going to fail. You don't
go into it
wanting it to end. I mean, I'm very keen
in the book
-- we have a huge component of the
book dedicated
to prenuptial agreements. And we
advise people to
get prenuptial agreements, not in
terms of
segregating assets and about financial
issues, but
prenuptial agreements whereby you
have a
pre-executed document that will
discuss how your
marriage will dissolve if it does
dissolve, while you
still have a shred of respect for each
other. That's the
best time to negotiate a document like
that rather
than later on.

I mean, what happens in divorce, the
terrible thing
about divorce, among other things is,
that, A, you
wind up having to -- the best thing for
you to do is
to negotiated and mediate your
differences right
when you're the least willing to do that.
And the
second thing is that family law,
particularly in
California, is a place in which they
mete out
criminal punishments in civil court. Men
are denied
their rights by judges and by
therapeutic caregivers.

Men are denied access to their
children, not for valid
reasons at all. It's as arbitrary and it's
as corrupt and
ineffectual as can be.
http://edition.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0
611/18/lkl.01.html


interview with Judith Sheindlin,"JUDGE
JUDY". Before becoming "Judy" Judge
Sheindlin was a Family Court judge for
25
years. Click on sentence above for
transcript:

KING: Is child custody the toughest
when the
man wants custody, the woman wants
custody?

SHEINDLIN: I think that when you start
out
with a custody determination in court
you
should start out with a clean slate and
that
means that both parents are equally
able and
capable of taking care of children
unless one
or the other demonstrates the
opposite, so
that should be the clear standard that
both
people should have equal input, both
parents
should have equal input in the lives of
their
children.

And, if you start out with that as a
criteria and
people know that, then there's not
going to
be that jockeying for position, which
very
often has a financial implication. All too
often when there are custody battles
the best
interest of the children somehow fall by
the
wayside.

KING: Yes, I know. Is it generally a rule
in a
custody case that the woman has the
edge?

SHEINDLIN: Well it should not be.
That's not
the law. The law in this -- in every
jurisdiction
that I know of is that parents stand on
an
equal footing. Unfortunately, many of
the
services that serve the matrimonial
courts,
psychiatrists, psychologists, bring their
own
predisposition in that regard and they
still say
that, well, children of tender years
belong
with their mother because of this
nurturing.

Well the truth of the matter is that's not
always true anymore. Mothers are
career
women just as fathers have careers
and
businesses and very often now we say
to
fathers, "You have to assume half the
responsibility of these kids, you know.
You
made them. We're going to take
parenting
together. We're going to be in there in
the
delivery room together. We're going to
take
six months off. I'll take three. You take
three.
You're going to change the diapers
just like I
do and men buy into that."

All of a sudden when the marriage is
over we
say "Just a second, you're a second
class
citizen, you don't deserve even our
consideration as being the primary
parent."
So that's why I think that if you started
out
with the premise that each parent is
supposed to have 50 percent of a
child's time
so that a child can enjoy a good
relationship
with both parents, we would do away
with a
lot of the custody battles.

You can't force feed a parent into
wanting to
take on the responsibility. What we're
talking
about is discouraging these custody
battles. If
you've got a father who doesn't want
custody,
terrific, there's no battle.

But if you have two parents that say,
listen,
we're equal, then what courts should
try to do
is to work out a scenario where each
parent
will have the opportunity of spending
quality
constructive time with their children.

KING: Some morons get custody.
JUDGE JUDY
Alec Baldwin
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handout.
"Men Abused by Women, It Happens
and It Matters", also from
Alberta's Children Services. Thirteen
pages. Very good and
factual introduction to men abused by
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