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We Need to Stop Excusing Women’s Violence by Jan Brown

November 30th, 2010
By Harry Crouch
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Posted in Domestic abuse/violence, discrimination against men, jan brown

http://domesticviolenceresourcesformen.blogspot.com/

Jan Brown, Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women

For the past few weeks one of the the stars of MTV’s hit show, “Teen Mom,” Amber Portwood, has been the focus of a whole lot of media attention for her domestically violent behavior caught on tape towards the father of her toddler child Leah and boyfriend, Gary Shirley. Every news outlet from CBS to CNN to TMZ has written or spoken about the on-camera verbal and physical assaults that Amber has directed towards Gary. Gary, to his credit, has never physically retaliated.

Although I don’t know Gary personally I know thousands of “Gary’s” in similar situations. Gary, like other men in these situations who do not hit women or defend themselves against a woman’s violence, know the rules of the game i.e. if a woman hits you stand there in take it because if you defend yourself you’re going to jail. There is no excuse for abuse, unless it’s a woman doing the abusing.

For years women’s violence against men has been ignored, minimized and excused. However, this young women’s violence, caught on tape, has been hard to ignore or brush off. Had her violence not been caught on tape it’s likely that it would still be going on behind closed doors and no one would be the wiser…men don’t tell.

To view a 55 second clip of her physical and verbal abusiveness towards Gary click here And there is a lot more where that came from. One wonders how long the camera crew and producers would have let Gary get away with hitting, slapping, choking and berating Amber before stopping or reporting the domestic violence had roles been reversed.

Still some will choose to make excuses for Amber’s verbal and physical violence because Amber is a female and Gary is a male. Nothing new there, those entrenched in domestic violence issues have been making excuses for women’s violence for decades.

Take, for instance, Lynn Harris’s article for Salon, “Is female-on-male violence on the rise? ‘”Teen Mom’s”‘ Amber Portwood has turned a spotlight on women who hit. We take a closer look at the supposed trend,” (catch the “supposed” innuendo there?). Ms. Harris claims that women use violence out of frustration to get attention i.e. women are weak and needy of attention, while men use violence to assert their power and control over women, i.e. to keep them in their place and subservient to men. However, according to the comments made it seems few viewers of the show agree:

“I live in ambers hometown and…this crazy bit?h is 100 percent real! The stories about her fighting her neighbor over a parking spot, true! Her abusing Gary, true! She is an embarrassment to her entire town….” “…I think Amber and Gary need help, but i defiantly (sic) think Leah is better off with Gary then Amber I do not think she is safe with Amber.” “…Gary is far calmer and needs to have custody of Leah…Now she dumped Gary and has a new guy that she’s bringing around the baby. Has that new guy seen the show? Cause he might want to buy some protective gear.” http://tinyurl.com/25awxz6

“…GREAT JOB GARY 4 putting LEAH first! Amber would love it if u were 2 b sneaky & disobey the laws..thus hurting Leah. Keep that monster AWAY until she is fit & allowed the privilege 2 b a mother again. If it ever even happens!” http://tinyurl.com/25udo6j “I am so happy that the Amber abusive chick is getting what she deserves. Not only does she smack Gary around, but she is a risk for the baby. what if she goes crazy? like the time she locked the baby in the room because she was crying for her daddy. She can snap at any x and at anyone it is scary to have a person like that in your home.” http://tinyurl.com/37h2rfm

Bill at Bill’s Pro-feminist Blog in his posting on (although not on the subject of Amber’s violence but women’s violence against men in general), “But women do it to! On acknowledging female violence towards men,” also makes excuses for women’s violence. He reiterates what Ms. Harris says about women’s violence, “”First, we need to understand how women’s violence in relationships is often very different from men’s violence in relationships,”" and then he discusses how, and I’m paraphrasing here, women’s violence is less injurious and more about attention seeking while men’s is about, “…putting you back in your place, bitch.”" Additionally according to Bill men are in full control of their faculties, their use of violence is patriarchal in nature used to dominate and control while women use violence is because (here comes the excuses) they have a mental illness and/or abuse hard drugs i.e. they can’t help it. Hello, mental illness and hard drug use is not exclusive to women just as using violence as a means to control and gain power in a relationships is not exclusive to men.

Now back to Amber Portwood and Gary Shirley’s (and their toddler who witnessed Amber’s abuse of her father) situation, even with hard documented evidence of verbal threats and physical assault it took seven weeks before the police decided to charge Amber with two counts of felony and a misdemeanor. At this writing there has been no arrest because the DA still hasn’t even filed the charges yet. I think we can all agree that the investigation might have taken tops 48 hours if Gary was doing the hitting and berating on camera. He would have been arrested and locked up before you could say “Patriarchy.” ;-)

Although there are plenty of gray areas when it comes to domestic violence some still choose to continue to look at domestic violence as a black and white phenomonom; men’s patriarchy and men as a group are the cause of domestic violence. These same people continue to turn a blind eye to research that doesn’t fit their beliefs (see Dr. Daniel Whittaker et al http://ajph.aphapublications.org/cgi/content/abstract/97/5/941 Dr. Denise Hines http://www.clarku.edu/faculty/dhines/results.htm, and Dr. Murray Straus http://www.unh.edu/news/cj_nr/2006/may/em_060519male.cfm for info on female domestic violence and male victimization) and continue to perpetuate the myth that women’s violence should be excused for the most part because it’s not as harmful or being used as a means to control and maintain power over an intimate partner. This thinking does a grave disservice to male victims, female perpetrators and the innocent children who are caught in the middle. As long as society continues to view female violence as harmless there will be people who believe that, “…shes not going to hit the baby she hits him because shes frustrated hes a big fat lazy bum I’d hit him too in fact I’d kick him to the curb.” http://tinyurl.com/2bk2t9k and male victims and their children will suffer the consequences.

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unbelievable story… read the transcript… perjury established… I sent to District Attorney

August 12th, 2010
By Harry Crouch
Article Source
Posted in Domestic abuse/violence, False Accusation, Restraining orders, discrimination against men, family court

http://www.californiamenscenters.org/files/Timothy_Cox_transcript_091022.pdf (large file, allow time to download)

That link takes you to an unbelievable transcript. In a related hearing this week minor’s counsel established there were 25 false accusations! Then the falsely accused father strapped on a GPS… I’ve sent this to the San Diego District Attorney who has promised that it will be turned over to the police for investigation. The transcript establishes a series of crimes including perjury of which there is no question. Guess to whom the court awarded custody of the children?

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NPR Gives Raped Males The Unworthy Victim Treatment

June 30th, 2010
By Harry Crouch
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Posted in Domestic abuse/violence, Harry Crouch, Sexual Assault/Rape, discrimination against men

FYI, IMPORTANT request below my signature block. Please help by contacting NPR…

Harry Crouch

California Men’s Centers

National Coalition For Men

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Please contact NPR’s Morning Edition, per the alert below, if you have the time.  Thanks.

RADAR 2

RADAR ALERT:NPR Gives Raped Males The Unworthy Victim Treatment

Last week, June 23, Attorney General Eric Holder missed the deadline for issuing standards to prevent prison rape.1

Men being raped in prison is so accepted by mainstream America that Saturday Night Live’s writers saw nothing wrong with doing 4-1/2 minutes of ass-rape jokes in a sketch called “Scared Straight” that ended with Betty White saying emphatically, “Wizard of Ass”!2 Blogger Scott Starnes states the attitude explicitly. Under a graphic stating “Ass-Rape: It’s Always Funny,” Starnes asks: “Who honestly cares about criminals being ass-raped in prison?”3

Ignorant callousness is an obvious problem for reformers trying to eliminate prison rape. But an even more insidious problem is the media’s treatment of male victims as unworthy of concern, as NPR’s Morning Edition recently did.4. NPR chose to ignore the fact that 90% of incarcerated individuals are male, and instead focused their story solely on a female-prisoner’s experience of prison-rape. This form of bias is so subtle that most listeners won’t even notice it. But it is a classic example of the very media bias described by Noam Chomsky and Edward Herman in their book Manufacturing Consent5, in which they write:

“Our hypothesis is that worthy victims will be featured prominently and dramatically, that they will be humanized, and that their victimization will receive the detail and context in story construction that will generate reader interest and sympathetic emotion. In contrast, unworthy victims will merit only slight detail, minimal humanization, and little context that will excite and enrage.”

NPR’s decision to focus solely on a female victim’s experience demonstrates that they view female rape victims as “worthy” and male victims as “unworthy.” And their mischaracterizing the issue will inevitably lead to stronger protections for female inmates and weaker or non-existent protections for the vast majority of inmates – the male inmates.

Society’s indifference to male victimization helps explain why the Department of Justice can’t get its act together to come up with standards that are already pretty well known. Columnist Robert Franklin summarizes the DoJ’s cynical attitude about missing the deadline as, “Why bother? It’s mostly men who are abused, right?”6

Cultural assumptions play an important role in the creation of public policy. And a subtly biased story coming from a mainstream media outlet like NPR is far more effective in propagating and perpetuating bias than anything an obviously biased blogger like Scott Starnes could come out with. Therefore, efforts at exposing subtle bias and trying to correct it are essential to RADAR’s mission to reform the nation’s domestic violence laws.

Kindly contact Morning Edition

http://help.npr.org/npr/includes/customer/npr/custforms/contactus.aspx?sid=1

and ask them to do a follow-up story on the DoJ’s failure to issue standards for the prevention of prison rape. Let them know that their listeners want them to treat male victims as equally worthy of sympathy as female victims. In Chomsky and Herman’s words, the suffering of male victims should be featured prominently and dramatically, the male victims should be humanized just as NPR’s stories have done for female victims, and stories on male victims should give sufficient detail and context to generate reader interest and sympathetic emotion.

When you contact NPR, please be polite.

 


 

1 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lovisa-stannow/attorney-general-misses-h_b_622777.html

2 http://www.hulu.com/watch/147971/saturday-night-live-scared-straight

3 http://scottystarnes.wordpress.com/2010/06/14/doj-lead-by-ag-eric-holder-is-worried-about-ass-rape-in-prison-system

4 http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=127376570

5 http://www.thirdworldtraveler.com/Herman%20/Manufac_Consent_Prop_Model.html

6 http://glennsacks.com/blog/?p=4841


Date of RADAR Release: June 29, 2010

R.A.D.A.R. – Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting – is a non-profit, non-partisan organization of men and women working to improve the effectiveness of our nation’s approach to solving domestic violence. http://www.mediaradar.org

 

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New Hampshire threatens to let die its Commission on the Status of Men

April 20th, 2010
By Harry Crouch
Article Source
Posted in Domestic abuse/violence, False Accusation, Harry Crouch, discrimination against men

You can read about it in the letter the National Coalition For Men sent members of the New Hampshire Legislature. Just click on this link. You might consider sending a polite letter of support too if you have not already done so.

Harry Crouch

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Walk a Mile in Her Shoes Campaign Couldn’t Walk Three Feet in Johnny’s

April 8th, 2010
By Harry Crouch
Article Source
Posted in Domestic abuse/violence, Harry Crouch

Telling it like it is, the revealing of another propaganda piece of the “men are bad” industry. Thank you Steven for this amazing article. An excerpt of Steven’s article is below. You can read the rest on Men’s News Daily . The article reminded me of something I wrote, “Men are also victims of cruel domestic violence“. I wrote, “Eight-year-old Johnny goes home after school awareness training about “women and children” of abuse to an alcoholic mother who beats him. What inappropriate behaviors will he carry as weapons into the future? Will there be an “abuse excuse” for him… or will we jail Johnny when he’s older while his mother sips martinis by the pool.” The article was published April 23, 1998.  Tens of thousands of Johnny’s live behind cold-steel bars… I’d like to see women walk a mile in their shoes…

Walk a Mile in Her Shoes Campaign Couldn’t Walk Three Feet in His

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

By steven deluca

Each April we expose another generation to the “light hearted” spectacle of grown men in high heels, leading a parade to help break the silence about how “1 in 6 women” are violently sexually assaulted by men.  Men should “walk in women’s shoes” is the theme of April as  “Sexual Assault Awareness Month” an event calling attention to how women are hobbled by both fashion and by the evil  patriarchy.

The false 1 in 6 statistic can be traced to Mary Koss in a study for MS magazine where she found that 1 in 4 college women had been raped.  It didn’t matter to Koss that the women didn’t think they had been raped. By her definition they had been despite some of these women continuing to date their “rapist.”

The Independent Women’s Forum calls this the number one myth of feminist claims.

According to Linda Fairstein of the New York County District Attorney’s Sex Crimes Unit, “there are about 4,000 reports of rape each year in Manhattan. Of these, about half simply did not happen.” Source: Fairstein,’s book, Sexual Violence: Our War Against Rape.

On my bulletin board is a photo from a past “walk in women’s shoes” event.  Three grim looking young males are seated at a table staring at high heels.  Behind them, arms folded, are three smug looking women.  These women are encouraging the men to march in high heels at the head of a parade. What little girls and boys learn from this is that millions of women are being sexually violated, and that many of the men watching the dancing bears perform must be rapists.

There is not even a hint that women ever commit serious acts of violence including the sexual abuse of children.  It’s just a Politically Correct event hammering home the point that girls and women suffer because men are evil.   It’s not a parade, it’s a charade. And it crosses the line into hate as surely as if the marchers were wearing sheets and pointed white hoods.  Never in all the years of asking men to walk in women’s shoes have we  asked women to walk in men’s shoes.  That too would be politically incorrect.

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NCFM letter from six activists from six countries to six country leaders

April 1st, 2010
By Harry Crouch
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Posted in Domestic abuse/violence, Harry Crouch

Several months ago Canadian men’s rights activist Earl Silverman drafted a letter encouraging the leaders of various countries to reconsider their goverments’ policies on domestic violence. After several months of revisions and working with numerous activists from around the world Earl’s vision took shape under the banner of the National Coalition For Men (NCFM). Six letters to six world leaders were sent, all six signed by the six activists from their respective countries. All of us are waiting responses, as applicable. You can view the letter by clicking on this link.  A warm- hearted thank you goes to Robert Franklin, Esq. for his article ”MRAs Ask Heads of Six Countries, ‘What About the Science of DV?” And, thank you Mr. Silverman for inviting me and NCFM to participate in this worthy endeavor. It was a pleasure working with you and our four other workgroup members: Mary Cleary (Ireland), Jim Bailey (New Zealand), Barry Williams (Australia), and Robert Whiston (England).

Harry Crouch

President NCFM

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Scotland: domestic violence against men is frequent and often unreported

February 9th, 2010
By Harry Crouch
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Posted in Domestic abuse/violence, International, discrimination against men

Media release - releasfor immediate e - Friday January 22nd 2010
Scotland: domestic violence against men is frequent and often unreportedThe results of a major piece of government research on partner abuse in Scotland slipped out relatively unreported before Christmas. The new Scottish findings mirror much Australian and international domestic violence research showing family violence against men is frequent and often goes unreported. 

The Scottish Crime and Justice Survey 2008-09: Partner Abuse was published by Scotland’s Chief Statistician on December 15th 2009. The research was conducted with 16,000 interviewees and represents the most comprehensive investigation to date into the extent of partner abuse in Scotland.

Interviewees were asked about their experience of physical or psychological partner abuse both since the age of 16 and within the preceding 12 months. The findings included:

• 18% of adults who had had at least one partner since the age of 16 reported having experienced at least one form of partner abuse. The figure for women was 20.9% and for men 15.3%.

• However, in the most recent 12 months the figure for both men and women was 5%.

• The data for the last 12 months showed that young men aged 16-24 experienced physical and/or psychological abuse more often than young women and more often than any other demographic group.

• For persons experiencing partner abuse in the last 12 months, 48% of the perpetrators were male and 45% were female.

• Police came to know about 35% of incidents of partner abuse reported by women in the preceding 12 months but only 8% of incidents in which a man was on the receiving end. 40% of men told no-one compared to 21% of women.

One in Three Campaign spokesperson Greg Andresen said “Much Australian, US, UK, NZ and Canadian family violence data also shows that at least one in three, and perhaps as many as one in two victims are male. It reveals that men are much less likely to report family violence against them than are women.

“The Australian National Crime Prevention Survey found young people aged 12 to 20 were just as likely to report seeing mum hit dad, as they are to see dad hit mum. These young males and females were also equally likely to report experiencing domestic violence themselves. The Interpersonal Violence and Abuse Survey found that females were three times as likely as males to report being abused to the police.”
Scottish journalist John Forsyth said, “To date most Government pronouncements and campaigns have insisted that male experience of partner abuse is minimal and insignificant. This data completely contradicts these assertions. It is hoped that the Government will now review their meagre support for male victims of domestic abuse and their children.

“The research has to be commended for its rigour. When asked whether they had been subject to domestic abuse since the age of 16, only 3% of men and 14% of women said yes. However, when asked to report specific conduct by a partner that falls within the definition of partner abuse, the number for men rose 5 times to 15% and for women by half to 20.9%. This is hardly surprising given the tens of millions that has been spent by successive Scottish administrations on campaigns, support services and organisations targeted at women, encouraging them to recognise and report domestic abuse. In the same period precisely nothing has been spent on efforts to encourage men to recognise and report domestic abuse.”

The One in Three Campaign is calling on the Australian Government to take heed of the new Scottish data when it continues its review of domestic violence policy in 2010, urging that any new policies, services and campaigns support victims of both sexes in order to comply with Australia’s human rights obligations.

MEDIA CONTACTS

Greg Andresen, Senior Researcher, One in Three Campaign, 0403 813 925 or info@oneinthree.com.au
John Forsyth, Journalist, +44 77382 85954 (Scotland: call between 7pm and 9am EST) or carrochcomm@aol.com

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Let’s Talk [Or Not]

January 18th, 2010
By Harry Crouch
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Posted in Domestic abuse/violence, Richard L. Davis, discrimination against men

Let’s Talk [Or Not]

January 18, 2010

One day I sat thinking, almost in despair; a hand fell on my shoulder and a

voice said reassuringly: cheer up, things could be worse. So I cheered up and

things got worse.                                                                     (James Hagerty)

Most researchers and interveners agree that intimate partner violence (IPV) does not mysteriously or suddenly appear the day heterosexual intimate partners reach adulthood nor is IPV limited to heterosexuals. Many interveners believe that teen dating relationships are the primary gateways to adult IPV.

Perhaps this is one reason that U.S. Attorney General Eric Holder and U.S. Secretary of Education Arne Duncan met on December 3, 2009 with teen leaders, their parents and the program directors from the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation’s Start Strong: Building Healthy Teen Relationships. The Family Violence Prevention Fund (FVPF) is the National Program Office for Start Strong.

The meeting was also in conjunction with nationwide events as part of the 6th annual It’s Time to Talk Day, organized by Liz Claiborne Inc. (LCI). This meeting was to draw national attention to the importance of talking about domestic violence, teen dating violence and intimate partner abuse.

The Secretary of Education Arne Duncan said something that I believe with ever fiber of my being:

For too long we’ve been unwilling to face the reality [emphasis added] that teen dating violence occurs. It’s been a taboo subject folks would simply not talk about. [emphasis added] But we can’t afford to do that any more: too many young people are getting hurt. We must all do our part to break the silence and work toward eliminating teen dating violence.

However, both Holder and Duncan appear unable or unwilling to recognize that the FVPF and LCI, as their websites clearly document, rarely acknowledge female offending or male victimization.

The Facts

The Facts on Teens and Dating is on the FVPF website. The first sentence of the opening paragraph reports that, “While dating, domestic and sexual violence affect women regardless of their age, teens and young women are especially vulnerable.” The FVPF does not talk about the fact that dating, domestic and sexual violence also affects men regardless of their age.

In the same paragraph the FVPF talks about the victimization of women and for a second time does not talk about the victimization of men. In the same paragraph the FVPF cites a study that reports huge numbers of young people are affected by partner violence. And once again the FVPF does not talk about male victimization or female offending in the above study they cite:

Prevalence of Partner-Violent Acts Committed During the Past Year Within Couples and Separately for Men and Women [This data is from the study the FVPF cited above]

Violent act

Couple

Male-to-female

Female-to-Male

Any Violence

21.45

13.66

18.20

Severe Violence

8.64

3.63

7.52

In the first sentence under “Prevalence of Violence” the FVPF talks about girls “Approximately one in three adolescent girls in the United States is a victim of physical, emotional or verbal abuse from a dating partner - a figure that far exceeds victimization rates for other types of violence affecting youth.”

The CDC Morbidity and Mortality Weekly reports that in 2003, 8.9% of boys and 8.8% of girls were hit, slapped, or physically hurt on purpose by their boyfriend or girlfriend. Holder and Duncan should question why the FVPF ignore talking about the victimization of boys.

What is more troubling is the 2007 CDC Morbidity and Mortality Weekly reports that years later the percentage of victimization remains the same for girls at 8.8% and the victimization for boys increased to 11.0%.

Perhaps this increase in male victimization is due, at least in part, to the fact that dating violence programs, similar to the FVPF and LCI do not talk about female offending. When they do talk about female offending they excuse female offending as being primarily self defensive and they claim that the motivation for girls is different than boys. However, the empirical data found here Let’s Talk About Dating Violence does not support their claims.

A study sponsored by LCI documents that both boys and girls suffer from approximately the same rates of verbal abuse. Most studies indicate that girls do suffer more emotionally from teen dating abuse. However, there should be no question that boys are still raised to conceal their emotions far more than girls.

The Sad Silence

Nothing speaks to the gender bias of FVPF and LCI more clearly than the LCI A Parent’s Guide to Teen Dating Violence. The LCI guide always uses “he” when referring to offenders and “she” when referring to victims. Incredulously and without shame, LCI ignores the studies it sponsors and claims that this implicit bias is because the U.S. Department of justice estimates more than 90% of all relationship abuse victims are female.

The FVPF and LCI rarely talk about the plausible theories and scientific data concerning cause, offending and victimization because of their ideological held belief that males are almost always the aggressive offenders and females are the passive victims - concerning IPV. Is it logical for organizations that, as their websites document, refuse to talk about male victimization and female offending, should be leading educational programs for our sons and daughters?

Holder, Duncan, the FVPF and LCI choose to ignore contemporary research and recommendations from a recent study and workshop that was co-sponsored by the U.S. Department of Justice and Health and Humans Services that recommend the following:

Because girls engage in high levels of physical aggression and psychological abuse and most abusive relationships are characterized by mutual aggression, prevention efforts must be directed toward both males and females, and interventions for victims should include services and programming for boys and girls.

For the safety of our daughters and our sons, dating violence education needs to be based in science and not ideology. The websites of the FVPF and LCI demonstrate that these organizations have little to no interest in talking about our sons victimization or our daughters offending.

2010 Senatorial Styled Awareness

Apparently Holder and Duncan are not alone. Just as the 110th House of Representatives did not talk about male victimization or female offending House Resolution 590, so goes the Senate in 2010.

Senate Resolution 373 seeks to designate the month of February 2010 as National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month. I agree that it is time that we talk about dating violence. However, the 111th Congress, similar to the 111th, has chosen not to talk about male victimization or female offending.

The resolution talks about, “Whereas dating, domestic, and sexual violence affect women regardless of their age, and teens and young women are especially vulnerable. The 111th Congress, similar to the FVPF and LCI has chosen not to talk about the victimization of men regardless of their age.

Further the resolution talks about, “…approximately 1 in 3 adolescent girls in the United States is a victim of physical, emotional, or verbal abuse from a dating partner…” Apparently the two Senators who introduced the bill, Senator Crapo and Senator Lieberman are unaware of or do not want to talk about the national Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System that is conducted by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and has been reporting for the last few years that more boys report being victims of dating violence than girls.

I sit here on a cold January snow filled New England morning and feel a chill. The chill is not due to the weather. It is due to the fact that, as a father of three daughters and two sons, I know that few domestic violence interveners, public policy makers, or members of the electronic and print media will face reality and talk about female offending and male victimization next month because it is a taboo subject that FVPF,  LCI, the 110th and 111th Congress, do not  talk about. And no one is willing talk to our daughters about the fact that the number one reason for being hit or injured in a teen dating relationship is to hit your partner first.

The Senate Resolution 373 claims that it is intended to support communities and to empower teens to develop healthier relationships. Parents should expect support for both their daughters and their sons. Just what is it that the FVPF, LCI, the 110th and 111th Congress are waiting for before they are willing to talk about male victimization and female offending. ?

Is there not a single member of the 111th Congress or a member of the media that is able to connect the dots between this continued refusal to talk about or minimize male victimization and excuse female offending with the fact that the victimization of our daughters does not decrease and the victimization of our sons continues to increase?

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If you are reading this in print please use this URL http://tinyurl.com/yabl6z3 to read it online at www.Gather.com You have read my opinion. Now you can use the online version to instantly research, read and form your own opinions about the validity of the studies and decide for yourself if The Family Violence Prevention Fund and the Liz Claiborne Inc websites present the issue of dating violence in a fair and unbiased fashion. And you can decide if their websites fairly and without bias do or do not talk about female offending and male victimization. Regardless of what you decide I ask that you contact your Senator with this hyperlink because, as Secretary Duncan notes, we need to talk about dating violence.

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If I Only Had a “V”

January 15th, 2010
By Harry Crouch
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Posted in Domestic abuse/violence, discrimination against men


For V-Day 2003, to call attention to the transformation of Valentine Hearts to Violence and Vaginas, there was a contest for the best parody of “If I Only Had a Heart.” The most memorable entry came from Weldon Cabaniss III of San Antonio, TX. Hear song, attached. Feel free to distribute (with appropriate credit to Weldon) if you think it would help: If I only Had a “V”

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Reasons Why Women Make False Accusations

November 17th, 2009
By Harry Crouch
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Posted in Domestic abuse/violence, False Accusation, Harry Crouch, Paternity fraud, Restraining orders, Sexual Assault/Rape, discrimination against men, family court

“False accusations are not a rarity, they are themselves a form of rape, and a political hot potato. It will doubtless take a female politician of enormous integrity to confront the issue.” Warren Farrell, Myth of Male Power. The Myth of Male Power is a must read for anyone interested in issues related to false accusations.

REASONS WOMEN MAKE VARIOUS FALSE SEXUAL ALLEGATIONS INSTITUTE for PSYCHOLOGICAL THERAPIES (IPT Journal), Frank S. Zepezauer, Vol. 6, No. 2, 1994.
If anyone has information as complete and credible as this since 1994 please send it to me.

We are also looking for a copy of Charles P. McDowell, Ph.D. “False Allegations” which was published in Forensic Science Digest, (publication of the U.S. Air Force Office of Special Investigations), Vol. 11, No. 4 (December 1985), p. 64. If you have a copy please send it my way.

As an aside, if you are interested in learning how to protect yourself or someone else from false accusations, particularly false rape accusations, you might read Sex, Lies, and Rape, How to Recognize False Allegations of Rape.

Take Care,
Harry Crouch
President National Coalition For Men

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